Gurdwara, Wedding Talk - Commitment of Marriage

 
Date:
January 6, 1980
Location:
Los Angeles, CA
 
 
 
 

...The music is played in the class.

Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ka Khalsa, Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ki Fateh!

Try to understand this shabadShabad , Shabd Sound, especially subtle sound or sound imbued with consciousness. It is a property or emanation of consciousness itself. If you meditate on shabad it awakens your awareness. , try to know it, it is one of the secret to every woman for happiness, for glory, for domestic life, for nothing.

'Yanadiye manhada kahe karey apney ghar. So nerai tann kamaliye bahar kyan dundey?'

What are you finding outside? Appreciation? The people will tell you have white skin, people will tell you are great? What people will tell you will not work out, if your own consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. won't tell you, you are great. That's what the GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. 's message is, that's why in America people are freaking out, falling apart, because they want outside people to tell you, you are great. Telling you outside great will never make you great, it is your inside which has to tell you, you are great. And it is that greatness which is godliness. Seeking outside the nectar, the outside nectar is wine, whisky, hard liquor, that is outside. How much long that can keep you in the ecstasy, nothing, for couple of hours you will make accidents, you will die, you will just mess up your home, you will beat out anybody else, you will fall apart, if you are drunk driving they will put you in jail and that is the result of that joy of outside acceleration of your personality. That's very physical and if there is inside the glory of the God in you, then you are in ecstasy of God, then Almighty God stands as a guarantee that your home your children... God created this world not you. God must protect you, you can't protect yourself. You are totally obnoxious to God when you take His own role. You tell God that you can protect the world, your world your home. You will not know which wire will get burned up and you will all be just a charcoal in couple of minutes, you are very limited, you are a creature, behave like creatures don't play the role of God. Let God be the God, God is one, you are many. You are a part of God, part cannot be whole, it s a simple geometry. And there is nothing to find outside.

If inside is hollow and empty, that's what you are singing what you are singing, you are not listening, you are not understanding it, you are singing it. You are singing it to tell the entire congregation, you are singing to make them happy, you are singing to make it as a rhythmical, musical, it's a beautiful thing what you are singing but are you listening. Is it in your head or in your heart? Take it to heart.

'Yanadiye manhada kahe karey apney ghar. Har rango ki na maney, so nerai tann kamaliye bahar kyan dundey, tehkiya de salayiya naini payak karo singaro.'

Have fear of God in your eyes and don't lust around, have grace of God in your heart and don't push around, that's why everybody is divorced and nobody is married. That's what GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. says, I have been telling you from last ten years to read this, you sick people, (?) becomes Sikhs only by reading this knowledge, this is a knowledge, this is a technology, GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. with all consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. of God talks to a woman.

'Behkiya de salayiya naini bhaoka karo sangaro, taha suhagan jaaniye jahan se lagi darey pyaro.'

Then you also say,

'Inhi bati sou payiye nahi, bahi kaminiyani.'

This is what it is, by this all cleverness, this crookedness, and the covetness you are not going to go please your husband. You are never going to be a man, he is never going to be a woman. So you want to be married, you be a graceful woman, he will be a graceful man. There is no such thing that woman is disgraceful or ungraceful and then she can expect a graceful husband, that doesn't exist.

Ah liberty, woman right, woman right you take off your clothes in the road that's your woman right, to flirt around with every man that's your woman right? Not to keep the grace and tradition of the family, that's your woman right? Go and work in massage parlor, that's your woman right? What is your woman right? Disgraceful, flirt with other men, take away the sanctity, dignity and Divinity of the household? Don't give your children anything to look to, you call it woman right? What is going on? Now look what GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. says, you read it.

'Apney kar har rango ki na maney.'

In your own home you don't listen to the very fact that man is there, that man, that God in you. Arey, what is there relationship of marriage, husband and wife, what is a relationship, it is nothing, it's worse than even friendship. If you want nothing in the world to happen, take away from it the sacredness. There is no relationship of marriage, where there is no sacredness. If you want to ruin a marriage or a relationship create doubt. Without sacredness there is no happiness, there is nothing to look to, there is nothing to relate to.

I tell you the story, one woman was to meet her husband. The guy was in war, the war finished, he came home, so she was to go to meet him. And she went and she did a very special hairdo and did those funny clothes and all that, and when he came down. She said, "Well, let me see whether he recognizes me or not."

And he was very sad and he was standing in the corner and she said, "John did you recognize me?"

He said, "Who are you?"

"I am your wife."

He said, "Oh my God, thank God."

"You really didn't recognize me?"

He said, "I can never believe that my wife can be like you, I was thinking it is you, your eyes were familiar, your face was familiar, body was familiar, but what you look like is not familiar, it looks like a butterfly who has come from somewhere, it's not my wife. I want my wife which I left back, I went to war, I have come after three years I want to find my wife which I left when I went away."

God has sent you to the earth just like that, God is not gone, God is here, God is watching, God wants to receive you back as God sent you, innocent, kind, like little angel, little children. You become crooked, you learn everything about crookedness, you learn everything against God, you learn everything which is mischievous, which is lies and you practice them and you make a whole personality of falsehood and then you want to go to God.

You built synagogues, you built churches, you built temples, you did all those things, these are rituals. God knows that you do it to keep your social respect. God is outside you and inside you, you can't cheat God and that is what is wrong, that is what is not, that is what is most of the people life is not becoming happy because they do this hanky-panky, they are not realistic. That is what GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. says, the God is in you, find it right there, in your home God lives, God dwells in cozy homes, God doesn't dwell in palaces, corruption dwells in palaces. God dwell in coziness, in simple ness, holy, holy beggars who take from God and eat, who are simple, who are nice, who are decent, who are truthful, who are straightforward, who are not neurotic Americans.

You sick, two hundred twenty million people you are going to lose what you have got in two hundred years, because you don't have home, you don't have family, you don't have unit, you do not raise your children right, you are getting sick and handful of people are kicking you around. Your wealth will be gone, your happiness will be gone, you are proud of this food and all that, this all will be gone. Don't remember for forty –two years there was not a drop of rain the whole world dried up? You think you people are God because you have missiles and you have atomic energy?

You bums, you do not look to inside, you do not look to God, you do not look to your heart, you use everything with head. Your heads will roll in these streets and nobody will pick them. That is what is coming in these twenty years, that is on us. Because everywhere you create Las Vegas you corrupt, you gamble, you put everything on stake you have totally ruined the family life, you have everywhere ruined the whole thing. Sex has become your God, institution of marriage is nobody, everybody is sneaking in and (?) when you are going to live it. know it, read it, talk about it, when you are going to live it?

And that is what for you read it, read it what it was.

Student: In Gurubani.

YB: Yeah.

Student: (-------)

YB: Yanadiye manhada kahe karey-Oh innocent girls what the man can do, that Manda means who is the recognized well to do, well done, recognized, who has come to the plateau of life, what should he do? Come on.

Student: 'Apney kar har rango ki na maney.'

YB: In his own house he doesn't listen to his sweetheart, I mean I am making a simple English, but that's what exactly it means.

Student: (-------)

YB: So nerai tann kamaliye bahar kyan dundey-That wealth is so near to him and he is trying to find somewhere else. He is going go to certain you know, those houses, yeah, what I mean, okay.

Student: (-------)

YB: Behkiya de salayiya naini bhaoka karo sangaro-Have fear of God in your eyes and have grace in your dealing, in your approach.

Student: (-------)

YB: Then see that you are a graceful woman if you get the magnetic field of love and totally get the whole thing in it.

'Da Lagi jasey tharo pyaro.'

Student: (-------)

YB: What that poor innocent girl can do and how she can control her husband. Because these husbands are very funny creatures.

Student: (-------)

YB: Karam bala kar-she does lot of hanky-panky but she doesn't reach to the heart of her husband.

Student: (-------)

YB: Without karmaKarma The law of cause and effect applied to mental, moral, and physical actions. Ego attaches us to and identifies us with objects, feelings, and thoughts. These attachments create a bias toward certain lines of action. Instead of acting you begin reacting. Karmas are the conditions required in order to balance or complete these tendencies. Though necessary, karma is not dictatorial or fatalistic. It is the mechanism that allows the finite experience of existence to maintain and stabilize itself. We all have free will and can take actions to re-direct the momentum of a karma. We can transform it or neutralize it using meditation, jappa, good deeds, or intuition that remove your sense of ego and the identification with that past line of action. , without karmaKarma The law of cause and effect applied to mental, moral, and physical actions. Ego attaches us to and identifies us with objects, feelings, and thoughts. These attachments create a bias toward certain lines of action. Instead of acting you begin reacting. Karmas are the conditions required in order to balance or complete these tendencies. Though necessary, karma is not dictatorial or fatalistic. It is the mechanism that allows the finite experience of existence to maintain and stabilize itself. We all have free will and can take actions to re-direct the momentum of a karma. We can transform it or neutralize it using meditation, jappa, good deeds, or intuition that remove your sense of ego and the identification with that past line of action. here means it's a righteous action, without righteous action you don't get anywhere, you may try all angling, wangling it won't work.

Student: (-------)

YB: Har Ki Madh, Labh LobhLobh Greed. The quality of always grasping and feeling your self through what you have or what you consume. It is a principal block to clear consciousness and the spirit. It is diminished through the practice of non-attachment, contentment, and self-sacrifice. Ahankar Ki Mathi MayaMaya The creative power of the Creator that restricts and limits. It creates the sense of limitation that leads us to identify with experience, the ego, and things. Because of this it is often thought of as the illusion that blocks us from the spirit. But, as Guru Nanak (see Sikh Gurus) reminds us, you need not be attached to the productions of maya. Instead they can be used to serve and express the higher consciousness and spirit. Maya is simply Karta Purkh, the doing of the Great Being. Maya takes the ineffable into the realm of the measurable. Maye Samani, Inhi Baathi Sou Payiye Nahi Pai Kamni Yani.

This greed, this baiting, this lying, this plotting, all this won't work out.

Student: (-------)

YB: Suhagni, behney kinhi padh.

One who is a very graceful, devoted woman go and ask her, what she says?

Student: (-------)

YB: Whatever he does if it is according to the DharmaDharma A path of righteous living. It is both an ideal of virtue and a path of action that is infused with clear awareness and comprised of actions that are the soul in total synchrony with the universe. It is action without reaction or karma. , it is according to righteousness, it is according to the divine, just live it, flow with it. Don't tell your husband when he come home, "Hey you have a long nose in the morning you went it was two inches, now you have come back it is three inches."

Then you are going to have a fight.

He will say, "No, it is two inches, I went with two inches I have come with two inches nose."

"No, no, it is three inches."

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YB: From where you get food, coziness, love, rounding, surrounding, put your heart in the lotus feet of that man. When you take somebody's feet in your heart, that head works for you.

Student: (-------)

YB: So Kare So Kijiye, Tann Mann Dijiye Aisa Par matlayiye-Give your mind, body, and make such a satisfactory relationship, such a bond that whatever he does you do, what he does, it is done, because all it is for God.

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YB: Eh kahey suhagni, behney inhi bathi so payi; so suhagini says behney, my sister, this is the way to find your husband.

We'll marry you, we'll do everything, but today is the day when all the corruption and flirtness of the mind has to be forgiven. Today you are entering a life of righteousness. You are here before the world of God to relate to God, you are not getting married because it's a sexual relationship, you are not marrying for sex, you are not marrying for showing the people we are married and this marriage is not a sexual license also. It is for liberty, for Divinity, for dignity and for grace between you and God. Do you understand that? This is not security, AmritAmrit , Aamrit The nectar of bliss; also the ceremony in which a person dedicates their life to the Khalsa. Kaur you should listen too.

Marriage is not security, marriage is the way to relate to God, all you have to do is to create one saint, one messiah who can liberate the whole world. The womb of the woman is so, you can serve man like God or you cannot do anything, just make him son of God. Woman has the power to turn any man to be a begotten son of God, because no creature is born without God. But if you just create to your traumas, your neurosis and you get even with each other because nobody has grace, nobody has respect, nobody has learnt it, but today you are sitting to start on that life. Today you are not sitting here to get married to lie to each other, that is not. Today is the day when you are here to start, to live a righteous, a truthful, a decent, it may be a life of poverty, but it should be a life of dignity, life of Divinity, light(life) of grace.

You all belong to one God live it. You are creating you belong to two Gods. One God the ultimate God, one God which you create, which is your convenience. God of Las Vegas, God of people who go and bet their money, God of those people who do sex scandals, God of those people who do slander, God of those people... You know, you are not living up to one God, you are dividing the one God, you are creating your own God parallel to the God, the Almighty the one God.

That's why today we want you to hear, we want you to understand the marriage vows, don't tell after six months I took these vows just because I wanted to get married, actually I never understood them. We are going to repeat these vows in English.

(Students' laughter...)

Do you understand English?

Do you? You too? They are going to be in English and don't for God sake lie tomorrow. But, if you don't want to take a vow, get out, we don't want to marry you.

Is that clear?

Students: Yes sir.

YB: You owe me two horses already right?

(Students' laughter...)

So what I mean I just want to be very sure that's what I just you know God I never, I am never here, Friday, Saturday, Sunday so this Friday I came, Saturday I am here I want to be very sure with you and with you and with you and with you and with you.

Four of you, you listened to me, now you really want to get married, is it essential that it has to be done? Oh you can live together for rest of your life, we'll just throw you out of congregation, that's all.

(Students' laughter...)

I mean how can we deal with corruption just by siding with it? Forget it, we don't want to do that. We are happy, are you happy? You really want to get married? I mean to say you are going to love this man really, nice?

Student: Yes.

(Students' laughter...)

YB: Yeah?

Student: Yes.

YB: And you see that he comes to SadhanaSadhana , Saadhana A spiritual discipline; the early morning practice of yoga, meditation, and other spiritual exercises. The Aquarian Sadhana can be an individual or group practice; Ideally, it includes the recitation of Japji Sahib, a Kundalini Yoga kriya, and chanting the Aquarian Sadhana meditations, immediately followed by Gurdwara. According to Yogi Bhajan, the potency of any Kundalini Yoga and meditation practice will be enhanced in a group setting. and he remain a good Sikh and doesn't do any hanky-panky, I mean you guarantee that?

Student: I guarantee.

(Students' laughter...)

YB: That's (?).

And what about you? This man is fat.

(Students' laughter...)

I mean you are going to make him built absolute shape, his turban should be better than today and I mean his whole thing, whole thing.

(Students' laughter...)

You understand that?

Student: Yes Sir.

YB: And he go out and everybody should look at him and they should look at him and his eye glasses should be washed, clean.

(Students' laughter...)

No, I am just saying the fact, is it going to happen or not tell me otherwise get out of this place, we don't want to marry you. Well this is our day today baby, why should we give in today. Today is the day you just tell us what you are going to do. Is he going to have good, pressed clothes and nice dress and he is going to wear socks with his boots.

(Students' laughter...)

No, no, no, are the undershirt, underwear are going to be changed everyday?

(Students' laughter...)

What is the married life? Married life is a joke, I mean to say you just leave dirty, ugly you stink and you call yourself married? What is that marriage, nobody wants that marriage anymore, I am going to revise all marriages under which I have signed and I want to know exactly what is going on. I mean he is going to brush his beard and comb his beard with a wooden comb, is that true? He is going to get up in the morning do the whole thing. He must be healthy, that's right? He is going to eat right food, he is going to live long, whole thing. You are going to do it?

Students: Yes sir.

YB: These couples seems to be very ready.

(Students' laughter...)

Oh by the way, I have to catch a plane so I think I have done my job and bless you. You feel beautiful.

Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ka Khalsa, Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ki Fateh!

May the God's grace be with you and may you all live in this year of happiness and may you understand what really marriage is and may we all live to our promises and all that but I'll like to share something with you that we have twenty years now to confront what is called truth is and if you won't live by the side of truth the hand of God is going to be very pretty rough.

What I am saying you is that hand of God is very kind to you and normally hand of God always for centuries is kind to you, but sometime when the end of the time comes say about fifteen, twenty years it becomes little, it starts little doing the accounting who is who. And what I mean is I don't want to predict anything and prophesize things and I don't want to be playing games with you. But these twenty years is going to measure you up millimeter by millimeter and I think it is very essential for us that we should get our scene together and we should get our whole thing... There is no need to feel depressed or feel wrong. Those who will blow themselves, flow themselves or create themselves into the positive energy of God will prosper, will be happy, will be beautiful and those who turn around to be neurotic and with their flirtation of mind and those kind of activities will be unhappy.

And God is going to judge the situation because He is getting a bit too lousy and too loose. So there are going to be tightening of the screws and I think we'll be in good shape if we keep up to our, our leaning towards God, the Khalsa, the purity and our ecstasy, our Divinity, dignity, our ecstasy of grace as human beings try to be humble, try to inspire others, try to be with others, try to love anybody you meet and just let God flow through you.

You understand? I mean who is here who wants to be unhappy? None, right? The only secret to happy is, in God we?

Students: Trust.

YB: Oh that's the keynote of everything.

There is a one state of consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. Ang sung Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. , God is with me in every fiber of mine, with every limb of mine, I eat because of God, I breathe because of God, I stand because of God, I speak because of God, I am poor because of God, I am richer if everybody thinks he is poor because of God, God is going to go nuts to make that man rich.

(Students' laughter...)

God doesn't want a bad impression at all.

(Students' laughter...)

Trust Him dummies, that is your Creator, you creatures what are you talking about. He provides cats better than you, cottage cheese and brewer's yeast this and that because she has nobody else to relate to no hanky-panky but to look to God and you are worst than cats, you cats. What are you doing? You have to do to just trust God, feel God, relate to God and understand God and not your ego, you monsters, get off that hook. Ego won't lead you anywhere, it will ruin you, it will ruin your happiness, and it will make you belittle, ego belittles human, God uplifts. See? Right?

Tell your children that thing.

Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ka Khalsa, Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. JiJi Soul; used as an endearment or sign of respect. Ki Fateh!

And save my prashadPrashad Blessed food; refers to sweet food passed out at the end of Sikh worship service; gift of the Guru. I have to catch the plane.

(Students' laughter...)

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