KWTC, Class #12

 
Date:
July 17, 1995
Location:
Espanola, NM
 
 
 
 

I have my best student sitting in front of me. Good.

Student: (----)

YB: We have some kind of karmaKarma The law of cause and effect applied to mental, moral, and physical actions. Ego attaches us to and identifies us with objects, feelings, and thoughts. These attachments create a bias toward certain lines of action. Instead of acting you begin reacting. Karmas are the conditions required in order to balance or complete these tendencies. Though necessary, karma is not dictatorial or fatalistic. It is the mechanism that allows the finite experience of existence to maintain and stabilize itself. We all have free will and can take actions to re-direct the momentum of a karma. We can transform it or neutralize it using meditation, jappa, good deeds, or intuition that remove your sense of ego and the identification with that past line of action. with these drafts. What's that?

Student: Twenty dollars.

YB: Twenty dollars is twenty dollars.

Student: (-----)

Students: (Laugh)

YB: Comprehensive woman born to live happily but suffers the pain, suffers the pain as a mother, as a wife, as a person, as a individual, as a professional. In spite of the all modernization, civilization and understanding, still is a second class citizen. Can you explain me why? What is in you as a woman which creates you into these troublesome environments? You have sixteen times more sensitivity, intuition, intelligence, strategy, sensitivity, planning, you know better, there is no doubt about it, but you cannot reconcile with the man. So for all these centuries, because of something which I would like to ask you to tell me, you have become a second class citizen. What is that one word which has made you that way? What is that one word which has taken away from you happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment and grace? Please.

Student: (----)

Students: (Laugh)

YB: What?

Student: (-----)

YB: Well, you can blame on a man that's easiest way. You know funny part is, that tragedy is it's a international camp, you come from everywhere and that one word you don't know.

Student: (-----)

YB: No.

Student: (------)

YB: No.

Student: (-----)

YB: There is a one word, you have a one enemy and one enemy alone.

Student: (----)

Students: (Laugh)

YB: Not at all. All what you are talking is men have it.

Student: (-----)

Students: (Laugh)

YB: What?

Student: Menstruation.

YB: Now you have started accepting the defeat when you come to menstruation and baby bearing and all that, then it means you have lost everything. The word is sensuality. (?)

Students: (Laugh)

YB: Look at your (?). Whenever you come out with sensuality, you lose your sensory balance and you lose your sensory communication and imbalance in your senses totally create your destruction.

Now, ask me questions. Oh no, you are broiling man look at you. What he said? Yeah.

Student1: Do you mean sensuality is a manipulative tool?

YB: With sensuality you manipulate, you cheapen yourself, you are characterless, you are good for nothing, you are hopeless, you totally prostitute yourself, you betray yourself, you downhill yourself. Any dirty words just make a list and go with it. It's a very blinding and very inferiority complex syndrome of the woman; not senses, sensuality. Play of senses for creating an impact. It's the worst the woman has. Worst. This is what makes you not you. This is what makes you not being, being, being, being, a woman. This is where you compromise every intelligence, your everything. This is where you fall apart. You know that?

It is very funny, I asked a girl that day, I said, "How old you are?" She was less than eighteen.

And I said, "How is life?"

"Very fine."

I said, "How is your boyfriend?"

She said, "Marvelous."

She has nineteen year old boyfriend and you know I am just very funny I said, "Well, how is your sexual intercourse?"

She said, "Once a while you know we find time everyday and we can have it once or twice."

I said, "Where?"

"In his car, it's comfortable."

And I just turned around and I said, "Do you know what you are doing?"

She said, "I don't know what I am doing but it feels good, it is relaxing."

To me it's just a sensory shut up. Rather than her own senses, her own intelligence, being herself, she just wants to fall apart and that is your very eternal desire.

You know your comfort zone is your fantasy and reality always pulls a person out of the comfort zone and you hate anybody who speak truth to you. And when you use your sensory system... What is a boyfriend to you? Sensory security against career, against character, against inbuilt strength. You have from the time immemorial to this day, you have never tried to first practice being you and then everything else because of the sensory deficiency. You name it love, you call it, I don't mind what you call it but all I know is that it calls back on you as cheap and every woman with all the intelligence and the possibility of success and comfort and absolutely in a position and ecstasy, loses that chance. Once a woman can control her sensory condition, she will be prosperous, she will be educated, she will be wise, she will be in total discipline and control, she will be loved, respected, valued, considered honorable but when she starts flirting, flirts are never alert.

All the millions of dollars being spent on hairdos and lipstick, rose, mascara and this and that, think of that whole workshop. That makeup is for your absolutely sensory play when you do not have a commonsense that you are you. What you need makeup for? To attract things, right? And God knows what you are going to attract. What is it, it's a journey of life, from one misery to another misery, from one episode to another episode, from one situation to another situation, one state of mind to another state of mind? The problem with you is that you can't confront yourself, forget about confronting others. That's your greatest weakness. You have absolutely no strength and character to confront yourself. If you do not know how to confront yourself, you will never know how to elevate yourself and under the sensory spell, you will face the disaster. Ever you thought this way? Did you?

It's so funny, allover the world woman is suffering. Everybody knows the real problem, nobody wants to solve it. Do you understand?

Students: Yes sir.

YB: Can you tell me in your own words, what you will do to get out of this problem? Can you tell me why you are always not ready to confront your own self? Come on now. Let's hear from you.

Student: Fear.

YB: Fear of what? Fear of?

Student: Pain.

YB: Fear of pain? Pain is caused by your sensory play and not confronting yourself. You have absolutely no right to fear. God has never created you for fear. That's why he gave you sixteen times more intuition and intelligence that you should never be in pain. You cause the pain. Huh?

Student2: (-----)

YB: Attachment to what?

Student 2: (-----)

YB: I don't understand, can I be explained?

Student 2: Whatever you are (?) whatever you are finding and inviting super sensual (?)

YB: Let us discuss this, let us come out with it.

Student 2: It seems like whatever you can get emotional about, you can get attached to and bind with it in a way that...

YB: It is a most wonderful idea that you become cheaper, you become painful, you prostitute yourself, you live in a insult, you live in a dungeon, you create your own misery, all that three hundred forty thousand things, just what attachment is that? I mean to say, one by one if you all start making a list of your miseries and your horrible living and your pain and your all that, it all come to one thing that when you had to confront yourself, you didn't. There is one answer to all that your misery. I am asking, why? Do you really, professionally want to suffer? Is it that what your birth is all about?

There is no way on the planet I can agree to that you have any handicap, it's amazing, you menstruate four, five days and you know what you go through, we men, we men have that state thirty days a month. You know. Your hormones get just little bit leaked out those four days, right? And you know how miserable you are? You are bloated, you don't feel good, you are sensitive, you are moody, God knows what. Just for four, five days. Look at us, we are thirty days in that nonsense. Look at your sexual passion, you can go from three hours to six hours, we can go from fifteen minutes to thirty one minutes, that's our limit. So we are not sexually comparable either. Look at you, your clitoris never fails, our penis never come through. Let's talk facts, we are talking facts. You retain youthfulness thirty times more than men and you live almost on average ten years more than men and three fourth of the world is held by the widows of this earth. So what do you want?

Student 3: (----)

YB: Huh?

Student 3: (----)

YB: Equality with what?

Student 3: (-----)

YB: Nobody is stopping it. Nobody is stopping that. No it's not happening from the time immemorial, you can use your intelligence, you can go through anything you want. In the past medieval dark ages, woman have stood their grounds very well and in very high ranking.

Student 4: What about this children of female children (?)

YB: Because you are known for your sensuality and public embarrassment to the parents, don't blame on them.

Student 4: It's a whole cultural problem.

YB: It's not a cultural problem, it's a experience. A centuries old humanity has experienced woman freaking out, moment she starts, moment she becomes fourteen, eleven, sixteen, fifteen, she is total sneak, she is total through her sensuality, she has brought such a embarrassment to family tradition and to parents and to all that stuff. That's why all these things became possible but practically speaking, no parents in their heart ever has hated their daughters but they see from so many years from now, she will be just be a public embarrassment and harassment. Because on a female lies the social structure, whether a female likes it or not.

Honor of the house will never be with a man, courage of the house, heroism of the house will be with the man. Honor of the house will always be with the female and when a woman acts sensually and cheaply or in a controlled environment circumstances, that's what the embarrassment is all about. If woman is genuinely a broadminded, wise and intelligent and she has a character and characteristics, you will never ever find such woman insulted ever. No man will ever start with a woman just to insult her, embarrass her or divorce her, they don't have the guts. They have one brain, one track people, how can you expect from them to just go through the rigmarole? But first she let it go, let it go, let the abuse happen, let the abuse happen, let it bah-bah-bah then it becomes a havoc, then there is nothing. If all the time woman just stands as a woman, firmly on being herself, question does not arise of a problem.

What is the equality, four days you should menstruate, four days man should menstruate? You should deliver a baby and he should milk him, feed him nine months? You have your own grace, you have your own department, you have your own dimension, you have your own power, those powers are yours, men don't have them. They will never have them, doesn't matter how intelligent they are. That's why they desire you. Because in this world everything is worshiped as a shaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. and you are the shaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. , you are the power, you are sixteen times better, there is no doubt about it.

There is nothing ever will happen, the men will not desire a woman. Forget about it. But question is can you deliver it? When they desire, are you become desirable? Or you are desiring, that's the difference. Men want to depend on you, are you dependable. Deliver the man as a dependable if that man even swear by you, you can chop off my hand.

Don't misunderstand for God sake ever in your power. You are the primary power. You give in to men, they chase you, it's true because you are beautiful, you are desirable, you are wonderful. Just don't play sensory game. Play sensible games, plan right, project right, be comprehensive, put all things together, come through. You have to get into the pros and cons of everything and you have to understand any short term gain is a long term loss and you must understand, any scratch will make you cheap.

One day I went to this, you know the shopping center outside, what they call it? Factory outlet. You know, all these designer stuff. I went there and we brought a suit, a ladies dress and I looked at it and I asked that woman, I said, "Show me why it is twenty five percent less, what is defect in it?" She looked around thoroughly, then she said, "Ah, ah, there was one (?) thread not only one." And we had to take about ten minutes to find it. Do you want all to be sold in a factory outlet or you want to go into a designer showroom?

Whenever you want to go through your, listen another thing ladies, you must understand something, anything you like to control you have to carry it, it will drag you to the graveyard. The only thing you can control is your own discipline, your own character and own your self. Just for God sake, be you and see how much you are respected, loved and admired and you feel fulfilled and how much you enjoy. Don't get into the politics of things. Because your image to begin with, is first introductory image of you is the savior. Every child who is born, for that child you are the savior and that child cannot get out from that syndrome whether you are a wife, you are a mother, girlfriend or sexual friend, even you are a prostitute or you are the lowest of low, for that man he expects you to be the savior. He cannot get into any other thing. That's why GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. says,

"GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. Dev Mata GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. Dev Pita."

You are the first GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. , you are the first light, you are the first knowledge, you are the first touch, you are the first savior, you are the first nurturer. You are all. To husband it's the same thing. You don't understand, it's just a little change of angle, not at all another change.

I was talking that day to a man and he was just misunderstanding.

Side B

... Or not but I made him understand thoroughly well. Because his mother has big breast and he was nurtured by big breast, his wife unfortunately didn't have a big breast. Simple as that and he was dissatisfied and I satSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. down there forty five minutes explaining to him, that is a mother's breast, this is your wife's breast. It took me forty five minutes to this educated man to understand that there are two breasts for him, breast. He was totally bewitched by it.

"My mother has such a beautiful breast."

I said, "But you could, anytime when you are hungry, you can suck them right?"

He said, "Yes."

He said, "Anytime you are passionate, you can suck your wife's breast."

He said, "No. It has to be at night. It has to be."

I said, "Aren't you see the difference?"

I went through so many scenarios with this nuts and finally he really understood and I said, "She has the right, she is not your mother, she is your wife, she is married to you. She is mother of her children, you have three children. You understand that? Now her breast is their property, not yours."

He said, "Oh, yeah, I mean my kids have the right over the breast?"

I said, "Don't you see it?"

And then he said, "Well, I have a question."

I said, "What?"

"What you are telling me is real?"

I said, "No, I am making it up."

(?) I mean to say he is a full fledged forty eight, fifty year old man.

Don't ever misunderstand your impact on a man as a woman and don't misunderstand when cannot deliver his impact, what disaster you face. Your entire pain in life is because of this nondelivery. You think he is a nut.

This lady was telling me, "Well, he is mom's boy."

I said, "Then what?"

"He is mom's boy"

"Then what? Make him your boy."

"How do I cater to him?"

I said, "Don't cater to him, create him, he will be grateful to you."

Never cater to a man, he thinks it is cheap. Create the man, he will be with you rest of his life. You will have no pain of a broken family or a mess in the house. Don't play your children against your husband, don't play the domestic problems against your husband, don't play your personal neurosis against your husband. It is uncreative. Do you understand what I am saying? Men are very selfish. You understand, when they are born they cry, mother give them the booboo, are you there, what that means? It's a sweet milk and warm booboo. What's there to laugh? Do you understand that? Are you with me or not? If you don't understand this little point, rest of the life you are going to suffer. Listen to this. When they are hungry, correct? Inconvenient, whatever, correct? Cold, right? So they go to mama's booboo, give them warm milk and there comes a shawl around them and warm and soft feeling, correct? You think they forget that? Do you? Exactly your total value to a man is exactly that comfort. It will never change, you may graduate, you may have great status, you may become the greatest woman (?) and anywhere that comfort will go. From a prince to a prostitute man will keep on seeking that till his death. You don't have to read books and go through the family planning and family counseling and family this and family that, all that is a waste of time and money. As it is a male or a female egg, you provide a comfortable bed in the very, in the very, you trust, uterus. You understand that? Correct. Men seek that, that egg seek that. You uterus, yeah, it is you trust.

You know you use the word, English word virgin, you know? There is a equal word in Indian, Veerjan, veer means brother, jan means people. Brotherly people. You know you use the English word church, there is a equal word in east, charcha, charcha means where you can sit and discuss and talk and church is the place where you do that. You have to understand, expression of man is everywhere the same, it will never change. All man needs a comprehensive understanding with any woman he is in that he shall be comforted. And in English they say, man seeks a woman to put it on her head on pillow and can speak to her in confidence or in trust. If man cannot trust you, man cannot?

Students: Trust you.

YB: Every relationship with that man is a bust. No good. You have problems, men have problems, the world has problems. Time is between problem to problem, so please don't misunderstand anything is come problem free, problemless and anybody is promising you, you are just drunk. You know, when people wants to drink, they always drink first alcohol, right? Oh, harsh on them and then they just lose some sense, wow, for that they end up drinking bottles. Have you not seen men and women quite of age, licking those cone of the ice-cream? That is practicing their boob, you see how do they do, (?) how do they look, I mean they are very smartly aged people, they are holding in a hand and (?) do you see it? What they are looking for? That sweetness? It may be frozen yogurt or it may be ice-cream. Did you see? Do you understand the satisfaction of that licking? What they are looking for? A little sweetness, little coolness, huh? You don't understand, do you?

Students: Yes sir.

YB: You do. Okay. Then you are all very wise and comfortable.

Once somebody told, "My husband is da-da-da."

I said, "Give him ice-cream cone."

She said, "Do you hear him on the telephone?"

I said, "Yeah. He is saying either agree or I will kill you, that's what he is saying."

She said, "Yes."

I said, "Tell him if you can lick this ice-cream cone nicely sitting on the stool," in the kitchen they were fighting and I knew there were knives around, "and you can do that then I will agree to you."

And he said, "Oh yes I can do it. Give me this."

So she gave him one ice-cream cone out of the refrigerator and he started licking it. Next day I said, "What happened?"

And he said, "Oh, we went to home and we went in bedroom and we had a sex."

I said, "Good. That was expected." And on the other hand he was killing her, what happened to that killing? Forgotten?

Men are funny. We will talk about them tomorrow. Yeah?

Students: Yeah. Meanwhile, may the...

(Students sing "May the long time....")

YB: SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. ...

Students: SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

YB: God bless us, give us strength to not to walk our way on but to guide our way on. Give us the conscious living to guide our destiny and cover our distance. Give us the strength of our sensory system so we can use the commonsense and be wise, elegant, graceful and prosperous. SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

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