Los Angeles Lecture

 
Date:
May 13, 1980
Location:
Los Angeles, CA
 
 
 
 

...We often say, in our communicative sense that we have neurosis and we have the idealistic approach to understand that from where the neurosis comes. In a common saying neurosis are the faculty of the subconscious of the conscious ability which has been dumped on us as children or these are unseen or seen desires which we want to pursue and today to get rid of our own neurosis we need other people and other people who are neurotic are being hired to get rid of the neurosis. So a neurotic hires another neurotic to get rid of the neurosis. And the theory behind is, it doesn't matter how another person is neurotic so long he is professional and so long he has a degree. And to just test that I did this Ph. D. in psychology but how much difference it makes to me? It makes only this much difference that I have to put my scene together. I don't think we fully understand who we are, self knowledge is very, very missing factor.

A woman came to me that day, to ask me to counsel her and in the spiritual realm we can say what we want to say and I told her this is how she feels, this is why she feels and this is because why she feels. And she told me very simply, she said, "Sir, I need a space."

I said, "You don't need a space but, if you want a space you can have it as much as space you want."

By saying to me that she needs a space, actually she was going to say I am not going to do it. Nobody needs a space to get out of ugly habit, nobody needs a space to get rid of phobia, nobody needs a space to get out of prostitution, nobody needs a counseling even to get rid of telling lies, nobody needs, nobody needs any space. We are born in the image of God and God is Infinity, truth, grace, blessing, health, radiant, shining, wonderful.

Some of the people who are in 3HO are miserable and I am willing to acknowledge them. I am willing to acknowledge if they would have not been in 3HO they would have been in mental institution. I know some of the people have no character, I know some of the people have no consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. , I know they have a mentality of a prostitute, I know they lie, I know they don't have tolerance, I know the discipline of the 3HO family is very hard on some people, because they can make extra dollar by swinging at the sunset boulevard, I know this banaBana , Baana One's outward projection, often refers to a specified clothing that projects a consciousness. and turban cannot allow you prostitute, because even police won't believe it is happening. I know lot of things. Don't tell me, I know more than what you know, but that's the way it is folks, dead wood will burn itself.

We are going to create people of character people of grace, people who are open and honest. 3HO doesn't belong to dishonest egomaniac neurotics. 3HO is not to run a political campaign that we have to have a 3HO president in west, white house in 1984. 3HO churches are not getting sold, that we need membership to keep money going. 3HO Belongs to hardworking honest people who wants to do a job in their own life to experience who they are. 3HO is a family of people who believe to be healthy, happy and holy. Therefore there should be no misunderstanding who 3HO is. 3HO does not need any counseling, 3HO is a counselor. Open up any manual, open up any lecture, open up every example. All these people in 3HO who have marriage problems are only those who do not talk because their mother didn't talk, or their father didn't talk. There is no marriage which will not have a problem and there is no problem which cannot be solved.

There is one way only to solve problem, it must be justifiable in the name of justice and truth. Emotions, commotions, desires, directions, wants, needs will never solve your problem. You can hire and you can go in group therapies, you can swap your wife, you can exchange the keys, you can prostitute you can do anything. (?) two hundred and twenty million Americans are doing we are not concerned with them, God bless them, we love them. 3HO cannot allow wife swap. 3HO will not allow underhand, undercover prostitution. 3HO in France is very graceful. In 3HO husband doesn't go to work and at 11 o'clock a man comes who can have an intercourse and who can cook his meals like that French new system of accelerating one's salary and understanding how to meet inflation. 3HO is not that category of people. We are either honest, or we have every intention to be honest.

Some people must understand that when you do KundaliniKundalini Comes from the word "kundal"; coiled energy; the creative potential of an individual. Kundalini Yoga It is a Raaj Yoga that creates vitality in the body, balance in the mind, and openness to the spirit. It is used by the householder, busy in the world, to create immediate clarity. The fourth Guru in the Sikh tradition, Guru Ram Das, was acknowledged as the greatest Raaj Yogi. (See Raaj Yogi.) He opened this long secret tradition to all. yogaKundalini Yoga It is a Raaj Yoga that creates vitality in the body, balance in the mind, and openness to the spirit. It is used by the householder, busy in the world, to create immediate clarity. The fourth Guru in the Sikh tradition, Guru Ram Das, was acknowledged as the greatest Raaj Yogi. (See Raaj Yogi.) He opened this long secret tradition to all. between four year to eleven year you are hit by ShaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. Pad when you are hit by ShaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. Pad, your most worst, negative, neurotic situation, and personality like a garbage come out on the surface and it's very painful and it's very negative and one has to go through it. That is told to every person when he joins 3HO. Did we ever lie to you? We always say between third, fourth year you will have ShaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. Pad, you will only become real 3HO when you will go through ShaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. Pad. And when somebody is in ShaktiShakti The creative power and principle of existence itself. Without it nothing can manifest or bloom. It is feminine in nature. Pad we say, look boy, look girl we can't help you, you have to go through it by yourself. That's the only thing which is wrong in KundaliniKundalini Comes from the word "kundal"; coiled energy; the creative potential of an individual. Kundalini Yoga It is a Raaj Yoga that creates vitality in the body, balance in the mind, and openness to the spirit. It is used by the householder, busy in the world, to create immediate clarity. The fourth Guru in the Sikh tradition, Guru Ram Das, was acknowledged as the greatest Raaj Yogi. (See Raaj Yogi.) He opened this long secret tradition to all. yogaKundalini Yoga It is a Raaj Yoga that creates vitality in the body, balance in the mind, and openness to the spirit. It is used by the householder, busy in the world, to create immediate clarity. The fourth Guru in the Sikh tradition, Guru Ram Das, was acknowledged as the greatest Raaj Yogi. (See Raaj Yogi.) He opened this long secret tradition to all. , it's a way to God, it's a shortest way to God, it is most perfect, most valuable, most beautiful, but you cannot go and seduce and screw anybody you like in 3HO.

We'll prefer to have one member and I am repeating it today right in your presence, we'll prefer to have one 3HO member and leave everybody out of our orbit if we cannot keep the values. Some people are trying to exploit the situation because they are physically very weak, they are animals and their sexual and sexual and sensual habits are not under their control, some husbands are bananas, some wives are bitches, itches and they do all those weird things and some people think we are a trash pad of sexuality, sensuality drugs and anything else. These misunderstanding should not exist with all the members known and unknown. 3HO will keep its record clean, 3HO is a race of people who believe in truth, in guidance, in God and they want to experience God. It can be a family of only five people.

We came to 3HO to change America, we came to work hard, we sweated sixteen eighteen hours because we loved honesty. And a man who does not love honesty and cannot sacrifice for honesty does not belong to be a man and it includes woman.

How can neurotic cure you from your neurosis? Once I went to lecture a club and I was supposed to speak forty-five minutes, subject became very interested so the president asked me to continue, so I continued. Two, three ladies came after the break, I was to continue on their request, two, three ladies came they said, "We are very sorry, we had a psychiatric appointment." It's a kind of a prestige egomaniac situation that you have a psychiatric appointment. 3HO deals in divine healing, in mind control, in mind direction, in self efficiency and in applied consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. and in applied intelligence. People in 3HO who want to go to the psychiatrist to talk against their husband can buy a hundred dollar of tape recorder, tape it, say any garbage and then erase it. And if they cannot stop they have to pee their neurosis and for that why to pay forty to sixty dollars an hour?

If you are very negative you can walk two blocks, you will become positive.

There is a fundamental and basic problem which I want to analyze, the men in 3HO are trying to establish their identity, to establish their home and establish their capacity to pay the bills and so the women, and sometime both partners are working and there is not enough time and it is not something which is happening in 3HO, it is happening all over about United States of America. All young people have to go to what they call identity crisis. And that is as a spiritual person or a spiritual group of body of people, or body of people who believe to be healthy, happy, and holy, 3HO has a responsibility. And the main responsibility is we will not let our waters be polluted. We'll keep our strength clean, our commitment graceful and we'll keep on doing what we are doing. We have a romance with God, we are very romantic with earth, we are very romantic with nature, we are very usually unusual people who absolutely want to live our life happily and happiness cannot come without honesty.

Some of the things, some of the people are taking advantage and they are taking a very bad advantage of their happiness, they are going to make themselves miserable and I'll like to tell them today there is no solution on the other side of the hill. You cannot feel good by feeling good only, you have to be real good to feel good and be good.

By drinking six martinis at night the problems are not going to get high, you are going to get high. By sneaking and doing an extra curricular activity into the sensual and sexual life you are going to ruin your character. You are going to ruin your marriage. You are going to ruin your image. Nobody else will ever suffer for a wrong action of another person.

I have counseled for eleven years and to be very truthfully I like to tell you what kind of people need counseling. People whose child is unloved, people whose mind is childish but their age is more. People who have been raped, or people who have been sexually abused by those people where they were not supposed to. And because these eighteen kinds of people are those who need counseling exist in America and eighty percent of the Americans belongs to those eighteen categories, therefore everybody need counseling. The best counseling is a person should tape record himself, talk all the negativity then analyze it and then find a substitute for the negativity and it is confrontation within one self so nobody name that Jesus said, "When you want to meditate on God, be in the closet."

Don't tell somebody that you have been raped by thirty people, and don't try to be a groupie and measure their private organs in public, it will only establish your prostitution and you will be number one prostitute and nobody will give you a social respect, nobody will give you grace and America is not yet ready for the life which it is living. America may be living a garbage life, but still its standard values are honest, puritarian and graceful.

We have come to live a life of a graceful healthy spiritual nation. Therefore we are competent to solve our problems. Some people gave up they do not have strength. They should know they don't have strength and they should build up the strength. With divorces, with running away, with doing everything, problems don't get solved.

It is very surprising one woman after seven years left her daughter and just slipped away. We found her after two years. Now she wants to train her daughter, she went to the court and judge said, "Where were you for two years?"

She said, "I don't know."

He said, "Then better you don't know ever, out."

I am trying to tell you that only one thing you can do in this world which will forgive you for all the past that don't leave for your children a neurotic word. We can change the channels and we can change the life and we can really become what we really want to be.

I read a report there was a conference in Alhambra where all the psychiatrist came and the main problem was that, that all the psychiatrist will not pull up their own character, the profession itself is, have no future. But basically, if husband and wife cannot sit and talk with each other honestly no psychiatrist or psychologist or minister or counselor can make them talk honestly. It is lack of honesty in relationship which is causing the irritation and it's causing the fight.

A man does not suffer with anything else but dishonesty. Hallucination and mental projection which is not practical or realistic is a dishonest existence. I was analyzing that day the wife of one of my beautiful son and I told her, I said, "You don't want to be remain married?"

She said, "No, I want to be remain married?"

I said, "No, you don't want to remain married."

She said, "How you know, may be subconsciously?"

I said, "Yeah, your image of marriage is that you should have 450SL Mercedes car, you should have a house with a acre of backyard and acre of a front, it should be three to six bedroom house and you need a Mexican maid."

She said, "Sir, how you know, this is my childhood imagination."

I said, "That kind of marriage cost about a man should be earning about half a million to million dollar, with all taxes and investment he can afford three hundred thousand dollars and this is the estimate you little girl who cannot type fifteen words who have never written one correct sentence and who spoke with me English which has no verb and that is your imagination."

Now how that marriage can work? There is a classic gross inverted perversion in subconscious. I just calculated in figures, now these kind of situations which you have you should better talk with your husband get it out, plan it out, say it out, get it out, don't let them grind you. Counseling cannot be honest, you go and get counseled the other husband's spouse is not getting counseled what does he know? Marriage has to be lived by two, not one. Therefore it is better to apply Bhajanism to you, poke, provoke, confront.

Student: (-------)

YB: Elevate and that's it. Put the honesty right on the table. Just say what you want, just say him to what he wants, just she say what he want let it be there. I have seen enough, I have seen people taking vows and I have seen people wearing Damalas and I have seen people wear rings and bracelets and what not and I have seen people meditating, I have seen people doing hours of yoga and I have seen people falling apart. What keeps people together is a continuous search for honesty. It's a continuous urge to seek honesty. Without honesty we do not have any hope and people who are not honest in their communication shall never be happy come what may. And those who will not learn the art of happiness will not be healthy, because unhappiness will test the health. And unhealthy person will never be holy because he can't meditate. So we are fighting a very vicious circle.

Therefore my intention to talk to you these days is get into a habit now, counsel each other, because in mathematics say while checking you cannot check your own mistake ask somebody to look into your books. In your own mind you cannot find your own neurosis, let somebody look at your neurosis and that will do a favor to each other, save money and feed each other, take anybody out to a dinner and that shall be a kind of a social payment rather than asking somebody to advise you where you go again, again and again.

Make God, GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. and your spirit as your teacher, make truth, honesty and righteousness as your counsel. Make your life worth the truth so that you can live healthy, happy and holy.

People who listen to slander, people who slander, people who gossip are shallow people, counseling should be of a higher quality. Counseling is to the mind towards the end of God Infinity and soul. Counseling cannot be to tell you to do wrong things.

I give you an example of a counseling. "This is a counseling of a 3HO." A 3HO member went to a counseling to a psychologist and said, "Sometime I feel so tired I feel to urge to drink, I do not know what it is?"

And the psychologist said, "Well, according to the 3HO manual I don't think you people can drink."

He said, "I know, but I have a terrible urge of drinking, perhaps when I was not 3HO I was drinking. And how I can get out of it?"

The counselor said, "Do you think that drinking will make you happy? And you can be your own person?"

The person said, "I do not know, but I do not what else to do?"

The counselor said, "Why not try beer?"

(Students' laughter...)

And I checked with this person, I said, "Did the counselor said to you root beer or beer?"

He said, "No sir he said Beer."

A person who cannot uphold the discipline of the person who is achieving to practice the discipline is one of the worst enemy of that person, he may be in the form of the a minister, counselor, professional or anybody. Every goodness is to raise the moral, the ethic, the spirit of the person you are dealing with. It cannot be done to pull you down. Anything which gives you a kick back to roll you from the height of your character to be a slob you should be intelligent enough to work it out. Idealistically this decade of eighty is going to be hard decade. It is presumably a hard decade, the eighties do not have a good message for us, because it is going to be test of Infinity, eight represents Infinity.

Therefore let your GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. be your guide and let honesty be your counsel and let your character be your achievement. It is required of you to grow enough to find that peace in your heart that God has made you in his own image and you can create God as a reality on this earth. Remember life is a vibration and vibration always move up and down. But when you are down, look towards the up the hand of God is with you and when you are up, remember those who are down belong to you as brother and sister, that's very simple and that is very (?).

"Ghar jawani toba kardam shevai paigambaree, waqt peeri gurgadalam maheshwat parezgar."

This is the one lesson which my grandfather gave to me when I was very young and since then this lesson has guided me all your(my) life, I want to share with you.

"Ghar jawani toba kardam shevai paigambaree, waqt peeri gurgadalam maheshwat parezgar."

If you prohibit yourself from the negative and wrong things, prohibit when you are young, that's the act of a Godly prophet.

"Waqt peeri gurgadalam maheshwat parezgar."

If the wolf becomes old, loses all his teeth and goes into the jungle and declare himself vegetarian who is going to believe him? When you want to be a saint and a soldier, be saint and a soldier and a man of God when you are with banaBana , Baana One's outward projection, often refers to a specified clothing that projects a consciousness. , baniBani Literally "Word", Refers to the Word of God contained in the Sikh Sacred Writings; Banis refers to Sikh daily prayers. and sevaSeva Selfless Service. the heart of the Aashram experience is serving each other. and SimranSimran A deep meditative process in which the naam of the Infinite is remembered and dwelled in without conscious effort. and this is the only opportunity you can redeem yourself and redeem many others. But I am just trying to tell you we are very happy and we are trying to be happy. Therefore resort to those practices those privileges, those paths, which take you to nearest to the happiness.

We'll continue this counseling and self counseling and art of self counseling further more. May we all be blessed with the strength that we can take care of our own jobs, own values in our own grace.

May the longtime.

The class sings: "May the long time sunshine upon you..."

And I say to you in a very affirmative tone, God shall bless those who shall bless themselves. SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

Student: SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

There is something very important and it is real. It is Govinda Singhji's fortieth birthday.

Students: Wow.

YB: I think first 3HO who is going to cross fortieth, looks like a very achieved, for a woman it is not a good news, for a man it is real.

(Students' laughter...)

Sing him.

The class sings: Happy birthday to you...

Everybody to the cake.

(Students' laughter...)

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