Quotes on Marriage and Sadhana

 
Date:
November 30, 1979
Location:
Los Angeles, CA
 
 
 
 

(Song, 'GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. Wahe Wahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. GuruWahe Guru , Whaa-hay Guroo A mantra of ecstasy and dwelling in God. It is the Infinite teacher of the soul. Also called the gur mantra. Guru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. …')

(Song stops)

Draft your own will under the supervision of an attorney Mukhia Singh SahibMukhia Singh Sahib Title for a male regional minister in Sikh Dharma. and Ram Das Singh Khalsa, Saturday December (?), if you don't want to die, it's a better way. Everybody should have a will, at least, because at the last minute, we had a lot of trouble, the man was a devout Khalsa and we wanted to convey him and his mother won't let him. And we had to really go through a lot of legal hassle to come through it, so being young and beautiful, you think you are never going to die, never going to be sick and all that.

Today's topic is very controversial. We were talking what?

Students: (----)

YB: What?

Students: (-----)

YB: Steadiness is a character. Yeah. We'll (?).

Condition A, condition A, you want to put in X amount of energy, that's condition A. Condition B, X amount of energy, creates a response, does not create a response, over-response. Are you with me?

Condition A - you take X amount of your energy, which is called life force. You invest it. Three things will happen. Under-response, desirable response, over-response.

Got it? So far so good?

Now it is a business. You invest, you make higher interest, you make lower interest, you lose or it is according to the scale, which is called neutral scale. And that's exactly the principle of life. But when you are doing this business of life, business of life, you have to be steady. Steadiness does not come through any learning of anything, steadiness comes from character, commitment. Steadiness in life you cannot, you maybe graduate in psychology, but in character you maybe a fifth standard fail.

Character has got nothing with your degree, with your possession, with your power, with your political maneuver, with your physical beauty, with your mental beauty, with your spiritual beauty, any beauty, any ugliness has nothing to do with character because character is by itself. And character shall stand out in any manifestation, direct, indirect or neutral, relating to your body. That is where in the adversity of environment, if you think your character is that of a Khalsa, character only, I am not saying commitment. Commitment and character, character can be in the making. Commitment is when it is made. Commitment and character is a direction. When you live it, then you have lived a character. Characteristic of a character is, you live through any odd and even but you live it.

Now I am giving you today a very genuine scientific explanation of the secret of happiness through built-in character. People tell you, "You are ugly."

"Thank you."

They tell you, "You are beautiful."

"Thank you."

They tell you, "You have to change."

"Thank you."

They tell you, "You should not change."

"Thank you."

Thank them for everything. It should not bother you. But you should tell yourself one thing only - That you are a living character of faith, of steadiness and of achievement and your achievement is to reach to your soul.

What is DharmaDharma A path of righteous living. It is both an ideal of virtue and a path of action that is infused with clear awareness and comprised of actions that are the soul in total synchrony with the universe. It is action without reaction or karma. ? DharmaDharma A path of righteous living. It is both an ideal of virtue and a path of action that is infused with clear awareness and comprised of actions that are the soul in total synchrony with the universe. It is action without reaction or karma. is to reach to your soul. When you reach to your emotions, you are done. When you reach to your commotion, you are done. When you reach to your neurosis, you are done. And worst of all, when you reach to your doubt, you are totally done. You are nothing. But after all, are doubts bad? No. They should be there. But when you touch a doubt, you are done, then what is the problem? Problem is, doubt should give you strength, not it should drain you.

My doubt tonight is, I cannot teach a class. Take it that way. I am not ready to teach a class. Take it that way. Students are going to ask me so many questions, I cannot handle it. Take it that way. Take it that way that, the subject I am touching, I am not prepared for it. Like all that, these are all doubts. And then I say, 'But when did I teach ever? I am never the one who teaches. And my body is rented to teach, and in compensation I get the bread and sometime saltless, steamed zucchini and…'

(Students' laughter)

My body is very cold, I love to have hot food, I can't have it because I overeat it, and then I overweigh and that's not good. It is called proportionate, analytical proposition reverse. Proportionate, proportionate analytical proposition reverse. Don't even call it doubt. Don't call it doubt. Name it scientifically. What is the name?

Students: Proportionate analytical proposition reverse.

YB: That's what it is. Though it is a monstrous word.

"Sir, I have my doubt."

Then who are you? What you'll say normally now?

Students: Proportionate analytical proposition reverse.

YB & Students: Proportionate analytical proposition reverse.

YB: And that is very scientific. Because your doubt is not complete, it is proportionate fear. It is proportioned against the faculty you have to deal to deal with the situation which demand and you do not know what is to demand because you do not know the Unknown. Position is critical because it is analytical. Because your crystal has to come how much you have the depth. And if you run after your neurosis, you'll never make progress. Running after neurosis is like an horse who go round and round and round.

Have you seen the training wheel of the horses, have you seen that? What they do is, they put a long iron rod which runs by a central machine at a certain speed and they tie-in these horses. And the machine goes as a guide and they run and run. But you know, they run in that acre. But they run thirty miles. You can see in the meter you have run thirty miles, I'll say you are running around a acre. It never went out more than that land. You do not know what is beyond. And that is what neurosis is. You are around the same area for same reason in different colors, in different directions because one circle of that horse around that area means north, south, east, west, north-west, north-east, north-south, whatever you want to call it. But it is the same thing. Therefore, you can't do it.

You have to lift yourself. The word is uplift. Uplift is, when you do not relate to a pattern and pattern does not relate to you. But pattern shall relate to you and you shall deny the pattern. That is where the power of denial is successfully used. Analytically, you are always critical. Because analytically, just open up the engine of the car and then close it and then move it. It can't happen. But every movement of movement of life requires that that you should study everything analytically. That's why, human brain has been a most fast computer which can analytically, critically examine the crystallization and sublimation of the situation. To the Earth it's a solid crystal. To the heavens it's absolutely sublimation and it is that crystallization which will radiate.

You need not know who you are. All those people who follow to know who they are, get lost in MayaMaya The creative power of the Creator that restricts and limits. It creates the sense of limitation that leads us to identify with experience, the ego, and things. Because of this it is often thought of as the illusion that blocks us from the spirit. But, as Guru Nanak (see Sikh Gurus) reminds us, you need not be attached to the productions of maya. Instead they can be used to serve and express the higher consciousness and spirit. Maya is simply Karta Purkh, the doing of the Great Being. Maya takes the ineffable into the realm of the measurable. . You should never try to know who you are. You should try to act who you are. And when you try to act who you are, if you even fake it, you'll make it. Because, if you want to know who you are, then you have to know who your Creator is. And then you have to know also why He created you. And also, you have to know your axle ratio proportion in, in proportion to the frequency at the orbit. And then, to know at the orbit frequency at the ratio proportion of your own axle of life, you have to know all orbiting stars around you, which are four and a half billion people. Plus animals, plus birds, plus entire sea life. Can you do that?

But it's a very simple thing. It's the most simple thing. It's the easiest thing, "I am, I am, I am the Khalsa, mighty, mighty Khalsa, wherever I go, they want to know, so we tell them, who we are, we are the…' Now, that's it, it solves the entire problem.

Might in majesty is the highest spiritual evidence of character. You act with majesty. Majesty means you act with justice, that's what majesty means. Justice for all, directly, indirectly related to that action. Because your character must justify your higher consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. . If your character justify your lower consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. , you are doomed.

In India, there is a system; lot of rich people, they call to have home service. Those people live, they eat there, they live there, they sleep there, they can go in any bedroom, cash room anywhere. But these masters, the owners of that, those houses, test these servants. In certain unwanted places they will throw some hundreds of rupees, just scatter them or a diamond ring or something like that, and tell the servant, a nothing. So they expect him to go and clean.

Now anybody who thoroughly knows how to clean is going to find that money (?). So they like to see whether the person comes voluntarily in the higher commitment of his consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. say, "Bibiji, here is the money which I have found, in such and such room it was lying down there," or "We have seen such servant pick it up and put it on the table and some weight paper on it," and just say, "Bibi, your money is there, don't throw it just like neurotic child around your carpets."

(Students' laughter)

That's a higher character. Or some people, they take the money, count it, put it in a envelope, write a note on it and also write, 'Be careful, and be sensible.' Or there is another higher character, some people have gone to the husband to tell that, "Either you tell Bibi to behave and not scatter the money or I am not going to come in this house and be responsible she is neurotic."

But, there is a driving force in them to prove to these rich people, they are very poor comparatively, but prove to the rich people, they are richer than them because that temptation cannot get them. When you can be gotten by a temptation, you maybe a most wonderful, intelligent, well-read man but you have no character. "Temptation is the bait test," temptation is the bait test of a human character and a human consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. , qualifying for the search of reality.

And there is a one beautiful example which GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. Guru Arjan Fifth Guru of the Sikhs. ArjanGuru Arjan Fifth Guru of the Sikhs. gave. GuruGuru That which takes us from ignorance to knowledge; from darkness, gu, to light, ru. It can be a person, a teaching, or in its most subtle form - the Word. Guru Arjan Fifth Guru of the Sikhs. ArjanGuru Arjan Fifth Guru of the Sikhs. gave an example, that he satSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. down and he went through the entire pain of physical, heavily but stood out. This is how it will happen.

Your spiritual body when will drop the physical body, it will enter the subtle bodySubtle Body See Ten Bodies. and subtle bodySubtle Body See Ten Bodies. and physical body may pick up some memories from the mind positive or negative which cannot be said. It's undecided factor. And it shall travel to neutral zone to decide who you are, what you are and why you are what you are. Subtlety of everything which in action you want to do will present you the polarity of everything. That's what subtlety is. Everything subtly is positive and there is a very subtle negativity about every positive. But from the positive subtleties, if you understand the drawbacks and the setbacks and add that as a strength to go to the positive and accomplish. That's what road signs are.

'Slow down-lane merging.' Do you mean that board which is there, 'slow down, the lane is merging,' has a, has a punch in it that if you don't slow down, it comes and hit at your cheeks? No. It's a very subtle command. It is subtle to the extent that in your mind it gives a very subtle command that lane is going to dead-end and therefore, you start moving towards left, merging into the area of your creativity. It's a very subtle command. And from that subtle command advertisement came out all these billboards. You think, everybody reads the billboard? No. It has a very subtle attraction because it is my subtle bodySubtle Body See Ten Bodies. which want to know my surrounding all the time. And there is no reason why I shall not read a billboard and there is no reason why in my subtle, mental situation it will not have a positive effect. You will see anything which is to physical, is being done in a very passionate manner. Why? Because that is where subtlety of that thing lies.

Character is a commitment and it settles you for all subtlety into total positive subtle bodySubtle Body See Ten Bodies. and when the subtle bodySubtle Body See Ten Bodies. is totally positive and capable of holding your soul in it, you are not only liberated person, you can then liberate people just with putting a sight on them. Just sight of kindness. When you look at somebody kindly, God shall be kind to that person and that is what a real personality of a man of God is.

We are dealing a very gross situation. I have to teach, you have to learn and you have to learn, I have to teach and then you have to freak out, and I have to pull you out and then you have to do something shady and then we have to put a torchlight to just tell you, 'it's okay,' and we do all that. And what has happened nationally, Americans do not know how to put in energy into America. Because they have a hallucinating romance. Americans hallucinate about romance and that romance which they hallucinate about is, came from our wagon trail times. So it has about hundred fifty years of history. And in that history, sensuality and sex play such a heavy part, the cost of this is today no married life is almost happy. Because we don't want to put in anything into it.

I have seen some husbands freaking out, if the wives are steady. They don't like steady wives. They like wives who freaks out. And then they get to a woman who really freaks out and they don't want to divorce. Then they freak out that she has freaked out. They like a freaking wife because that is stimulant. But that stimulant sometimes nerve-short you. And it's a wonderful world. It's a wonderful world what you want when you get you don't want it. What you want you don't want. Because you do not know actually what want is.

I was very sad today when I heard. Five years ago I met this man and I satSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. down there for two hours because his wife wanted me to talk to him. So I said to him, I said, "You are a engineer, you are making seventy-five thousand dollars. You are absolutely good man, your wife, per rata on scale is ten over ten, then what you want out of her?"

He said, "She is not stimulating me. She doesn't do lot of things which I want to do."

I said, "All right say."

One was, he wanted to go to stay for at least fifteen days into a nude park and she said, "I'll never go." That was one demand. Second was, he feels once a while to have relationship, just on subtle level with somebody, she should not be intuitively capable of judging it. Third, if he brings ladies home, they should be just considered majesties of the house rather than put on their proper place. And like that, four, five.

And I said, "Well, I have listened to it. Now my stamina says, they are irrational, and I should not digest anymore."

And today, it was his turn. He said, even if he has to burn, "To put fire on four side and he has to sit in the center, he is willing to have self-burning process on, and shall not utter a word. All he wants she should just answer his phone call." He just needs her to answer phone calls. Because she has made, taken a vow now that, "Even Yogiji, whom I love like a father, is going to interfere but I am going to tell him also that I shall never speak to this man again."

And I was just looking through that talk and I pulled my chair back total in ecstasy, I said, "Look God, what a wonderful computer you are. At one time she wanted a justice and today he wants a communication."

Can you believe the barter? The bargain? Can you think of this bargain? On the level of human beings. She was totally in his total possession. She could have talked one long year, all she wanted justice for feelings, for righteousness, for truthfulness, for characteristic characters which were essential to built a home. She wanted it for her two children and she was honest and she was very explanatory. And today, he wants to do everything, provided she can just answer one telephone call and she won't.

Why we saturate situation like this? Because we are neurotics. And we subconsciously do it. Eighty percent of our action in United States of America, I have seen, are governed by neurosis, subconscious neurosis. Our history has a tremendous background and our imagination has a tremendous power. And why it is at the excellent speed of performance? Because our television shows are far-out. I never used to watch them. My study says, they are so suggestive and they are so subtle and in one note, Johnny Carson said, "Well, we have the bad time now."

And this guy said, "How come?"

And he said, "Because, this is the time when all the shows will be done to rating, therefore, there has to be lot of obnoxious sex to see that people view it most, so that those shows can keep on going but I am not going to do it."

And after saying that, all other replies which he gave were total sensual. So it was a very subtle provocation to the admiration of sensuality which he wanted to propose. And at this time, you are almost sitting here and you are all byproducts of the television, you are television babies. And television is just like a cow to a Hindu.

(Students' laughter)

This holy mother, either you watch it or you be with it or you hate it or you shut it up or you sneak on it, whatever but it is exactly like a holy cow to a Hindu, television is to a American. Television, ice-cream. Television, ice-cream and other junk food, is our national prestige.

So what we were talking today is the steadiness of characters is the characteristic of a higher goal, which is set in every mind and it is totally displayed when you stand committed to your characteristic and show your character and at the time when the temptation is very, very strong. Strongest is the current, strongest is the current, and you can fly against, you can take a height, right? Isn't the flying principle?

And therefore, in our life, there cannot be a institutional time when there will be no temptation. Time has temptation. And character has the power to resolve it. And marriage is a collaboration of two people who attempt to tempt at each other, in a union of higher consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. , to achieve a character and stand together against odds. And what I have seen is, wherever it is required to stand together against odd, people are getting even with each other, on the basis of neurosis.

I talked to one day somebody, he said, "Sir, I couldn't do this job because I needed more money."

After three months I called him, I said, "How much money more you are making?"

He said, "Not much."

I said, "Why?"

He said, "Because, most of the time I am lazy, I don't go to my job."

Far-out. "Sir, I wanted an apartment separate, I can't live in an ashramAshram , Aashram A community of practitioners who come together to live conscious, mindful lives. ."

I said, "All right, have it."

Slowly, gradually, I have seen people drifting and drowning because they follow their neuroses and one thing about the neurosis is folks, subconscious neurosis is just a inward volcano which will totally burn you up and leave you empty of anything what is called radiant.

We have a problem and we have to solve it. And that is where SadhanaSadhana , Saadhana A spiritual discipline; the early morning practice of yoga, meditation, and other spiritual exercises. The Aquarian Sadhana can be an individual or group practice; Ideally, it includes the recitation of Japji Sahib, a Kundalini Yoga kriya, and chanting the Aquarian Sadhana meditations, immediately followed by Gurdwara. According to Yogi Bhajan, the potency of any Kundalini Yoga and meditation practice will be enhanced in a group setting. comes handy. SadhanaSadhana , Saadhana A spiritual discipline; the early morning practice of yoga, meditation, and other spiritual exercises. The Aquarian Sadhana can be an individual or group practice; Ideally, it includes the recitation of Japji Sahib, a Kundalini Yoga kriya, and chanting the Aquarian Sadhana meditations, immediately followed by Gurdwara. According to Yogi Bhajan, the potency of any Kundalini Yoga and meditation practice will be enhanced in a group setting. is a exertion of self-will to steady projection of personality towards the positivity of life and it is not only required but also I want to tell you, SadhanaSadhana , Saadhana A spiritual discipline; the early morning practice of yoga, meditation, and other spiritual exercises. The Aquarian Sadhana can be an individual or group practice; Ideally, it includes the recitation of Japji Sahib, a Kundalini Yoga kriya, and chanting the Aquarian Sadhana meditations, immediately followed by Gurdwara. According to Yogi Bhajan, the potency of any Kundalini Yoga and meditation practice will be enhanced in a group setting. is also a thermometer, a barometer or a meter which tells us, when SadhanaSadhana , Saadhana A spiritual discipline; the early morning practice of yoga, meditation, and other spiritual exercises. The Aquarian Sadhana can be an individual or group practice; Ideally, it includes the recitation of Japji Sahib, a Kundalini Yoga kriya, and chanting the Aquarian Sadhana meditations, immediately followed by Gurdwara. According to Yogi Bhajan, the potency of any Kundalini Yoga and meditation practice will be enhanced in a group setting. is weak, will is weak. It's a question of de-will and if put together, it's called devil. Because that is where you have a triumph over Time and Space. That is where you go and clean your ten bodiesTen Bodies We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. In order to have this experience the spirit takes on 10 bodies or vehicles. They are the Soul Body, the three Mental Bodies (Negative, Positive, and Neutral Minds), the Physical Body, Pranic Body, Arcline Body, Auric Body, Subtle Body, and Radiant Body. Each body has its own quality, function, and realm of action. . That is where your majesty comes to display and you conquer the temptation around you. It's more tempting time to sleep in the morning. It really feels good, it's very good. Why to get up at all? And to take cold shower, who the hell has written on that? Forget it. And then go and sit and repeat those things again and again and again and again, it is ridiculous.

(Students' laughter)

But I tell you, when you end up doing, you say, "Oh, my God, I did it."

Every person, every person when he is three-year-old, he has a set behavior of his neurosis, every person when he is eleven-year-old, he has a subconscious, complete temptation to project the neurosis, rest of the life. But also, every person has the capacity and the ability to conquer it. We'll discuss that when we meet for future. Future when, Monday? Next week we'll meet Monday.

I'll like to try to complete this, 'Characteristics, subconscious neurosis,' and what they have for us and how we can characteristically putting our character in-between, save God ourself and go through it, so I'll like to go very slowly with you and I like you to study these notes which we have made tonight and just understand, deep in power and try to get on. It's not a matter of, it isn't the ego that matters, it is your consciousnessConsciousness The nature of the self and being. In the realm of nature, awareness becomes consciousness. It is from the being itself. Being is expressed in consciousness through contrasts and sensations, in awareness through merger, clarity, and reality. which comes through. So please remember, in characteristic value of your personality and your success and your happiness and your determination and your achievement, one thing is very essential. That is, your steadiness in your characteristics to cover the character against temptation. One little slip here and there can take you miles away. Miles away from your goal.

May the long time…

(The class sings, 'May the long time sun shine…')

May this day be a day to find our inner self, find our direction, find our learning process, accomplishing and may this day give us a determination so that we can live by the character God gave us and enjoy the characteristic so that we can flourish, we can prosper, we can be grateful for (?). Thank you, SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

Students: SatSat Existence; what is; the subtle essence of Infinity itself. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Sat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. NamSat Naam , Sat Nam The essence or seed embodied in form; the identity of truth. When used as a greeting it means "I greet and salute that reality and truth which is your soul." It is called the Bij Mantra - the seed for all that comes. Naam , Nam The manifested identity of the essence. The word derives from Naa-ay-ma , which means "that which is not, now is born." A Naam gives identity, form, and expression to that which was only essence or subtle before. It is also referred to as the Word. .

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